About this Talk
I usually say that time helps parents adjust and mourn the loss of their biological child helping them to get over the pain of not having a biological connection. Though, in the case of secondary infertility, I’m not sure that is always the case. Sometimes I think the older their biological child is the harder it is to choose an egg donor. I have done many searches for parents who are hoping to have a second child and most are thrilled with the selection of donors I present. But for some parents there seems to be a lot of anger, which is part of the grieving process that causes them to find fault in each donor presented. They simply can’t see themselves or their child in any of the donors.